A game of Chess or Russian Roulette?
Life coaching is about guidance and support and a Life Coach is your guide, enabling you to achieve goals and your full potential. Whatever are hopes and dreams, life may swing from being carefully planned and thought through like in a game of chess or feel like everything is left to chance like Russian Roulette! Most of us probably have a preference for one or the other. From time to time and in our own individual ways, we are struggling. Maybe we feel as though we’ve not quite got it sorted. At least not as much as we’d hoped or could do.
Being too structured could reduce our creativity or aptitude for risk. Equally, living on the edge for too long can deplete our energy reserves. These are the times we’re struggling; something has happened that’s bigger than just ourselves and we’re not able to bounce back in the usual way. At these times, Life Coaching could help get you back to where you want to be.
For sure, life isn’t always easy. We struggle, we make mistakes, but we can get up again and start over. Sometimes, we need help and support to get back up. Life Coaching is one way to do this, whether you want to build confidence, identify what motivates you, create goals, explore your personal and/or professional life, coaching helps people develop, improve, grow and succeed.
What is Life Coaching?
Life Coaching is about guidance and support. A Life Coach makes you THINK about what is True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary and Kind. Whether you are aware of it or not, each and every day and in one way or another, we coach and are coached. This because throughout our lives, from the day we are born until the day we die, we continue to learn and grow. Of course, what and how much we learn and grow will vary and is influenced by the choices we make.
With Life Coaching, there isn’t a quick fix. There isn’t a magic wand to build confidence and motivation or to bring about clarity, purpose and happiness. Life Coaching is a two-way process of communication and to work, requires an ability to carefully listen and hear. Both the coachee and coach need to carefully listen and hear what is being said. It’s about building a relationship, with good rapport, openness, honesty and trust. It is about learning, challenging and developing new skills and acquiring new tools.
What is the difference between Life Coaching, Mentoring and Counselling/ Psychotherapy?
The lines remain grey because there is overlap. For example, Life Coaching, Mentoring and Counselling/Psychotherapy share a common goal; create and sustain positive change. They share the competencies noted above; two-way communication, listening, good rapport etc.
Life Coaching focuses on the mentally well. Coaching is goal-driven and involves discussion, reflection and planning to achieve goals. More specifically, the focus is on the present and future, although discussion of the past may come into sessions, depending on the goal(s).
Mentoring involves an expert teaching and imparting knowledge to a mentee. The mentor is a subject matter expert, with the knowledge needed to help a mentee develop, improve, grow and succeed. A Life Coach does not have to be a subject matter expert in a particular field, since it is about guiding and supporting the coachee to realise their own potential. In turn, so the coachee can achieve their goals by making their own decisions.
Counselling/Psychotherapy focuses on mental health conditions as well as helping clients overcome substance abuse, trauma and other emotional and physical abuse. This therapy is about healing and positive change. Change can be achieved through exploring the past and present and specifically, behavioural patterns, beliefs and thinking.
What influences our choices?
Throughout life, we make choices. Each choice sets us on a path. Each path, results in more choices. How do we make these choices? What do we think and feel during and after making these choices?
The choices we make, reflect our individual and unique belief systems. It’s about how we behave, what we think and feel. Ultimately, whether or not we think or feel that life is like a game of Chess or Russian Roulette, depends on our upbringing, friends, family and the other people we meet.
These choices, what we believe, think and feel are also influenced by the education we receive and what we are open to and capable of learning. This includes the educational institution(s) we attend as much as the ongoing learning we continue throughout life. i.e. from the people we meet and interact with, the places we visit, the things we do etc.
Our choices are driven by social and economic factors as much as anything else. At different times and for different amounts of time, we think and feel different things. We can feel happy, sad, angry or frustrated. Sometimes, we overthink, procrastinate or think negatively or positively about ourselves and others.
Regardless of what you believe or think and whether you’re religious, spiritual or not, life isn’t static. Sometimes, it may feel like life is static. We can get stuck in a rut. Maybe we get depressed, anxious or feel sorrow etc. We might find it challenging or impossible to make choices and decisions. Whatever we feel is temporary. It is in the moment. If this applies to you, then a Life Coach might be for you. Read more about life coaching in this Guardian newspaper article.